An a-ha pussy moment

PSA: You don’t need a vagina to be/identify as a woman. So if you think that this is what my ol’ post is about, I don’t want your boring view. Bye. 

There are many euphemisms for vagina, whether you say koekie, coochie or vajiggle-jaggle. We talk about about them but never really do. You’re just supposed to figure out periods, pain and pleasure by yourself, it seems.

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Mostly, we never talk about what vaginas look like. I didn’t really see ones that ever looked like mine. The photos I came across were mainly of white women holding their hands in front of their petite, very expertly waxed hoo-haa.

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Growing up I tried to figure out why I got hairy so quickly and why did my nether region look like that? I shaved/plucked/waxed and because I have wiry/coarse hair – things went awry. I just figured that this was my lot in life and that none of my friends ever experienced this.

And then this one moment happened. I was on tumblr, trying to avoid seeing porn gifs on my work laptop. I scrolled down a bit further and found an image of a brown vagina (like mine) and scarred (like mine). I stopped and my heart did a thing, because representation of what a body can look like is fucking incredible. I couldn’t believe it. Someone else had what I had, who would’ve thought?

I tweeted about it and the response was overwhelming.

It’s affirming to know that you’re not the only one and have other people share similar thoughts. I felt a little less alone talking about my scars and skin issues, some that have literally been hidden for over a decade.

Whether it’s honest chats about adult acne like the blog series by Cindy Van Wyk or images of bodies without Photoshop, we’d definitely feel a little more affirmed by it.

3 thoughts on “An a-ha pussy moment

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  1. This is incredible. I’ve felt like this for such a long time and it’s so great to know others have also felt this way. Thank you 💕

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